For many people, the reason they are unable to achieve what they want in life is a subconscious fear of success. This may seem strange at first — fearing the thing they want most — but when you look a little deeper, it makes perfect sense.
Since the fear is subconscious, the conscious mind has no idea it’s there; and the person continues to strive and try to achieve their goals while experiencing one failure after the other.
What is a Fear of Success?
If someone really wants something, why would they have a fear of getting what they want? The fear is based on subconscious references that provide “evidence” that if they were to achieve their goal, something bad would happen.
This can range from being disapproved of or rejected by friends and family to having to take on more responsibility. There are many different aspects that can form the structure for this fear; and most of them will not make any sense at all to the conscious mind.
This is why a fear of success is so hard to find in the first place, and then so hard to overcome — because there is usually no logic behind it since the subconscious does not work with logic and reason.
What Causes a Fear of Success?
The foundation for a fear of success can be created from various experiences — very often these will not have anything to do with success. Here’s an example:
Max has been working very hard to build his business. It’s taken him a long time to get to where he is, but the business is still not supporting itself. Max’s dream is to leave his day job, and run his own business full time.
However, no matter how hard he works to build his business, he just can’t seem to get the clients he needs. His service is excellent, and those who hire him are very satisfied with the job he does and the prices he charges; but he can’t seem to pick up any new clients.
When he analyzes his performance he realizes that one of the keys to building his business is marketing — and he hasn’t been doing the level of marketing he really needs to do.
When he plans to spend time on marketing, something always seems to come up that distracts him or means he is unable to do the work he knows he needs to get done in order to grow his business. It feels like he’s in a trap and that it is all out of his control. The truth is, his subconscious mind is running the show.
Whenever he gets close to taking the action that would truly lead to success, his subconscious prompts his brain to produce chemicals that cause sensations that trigger certain responses in him.
For example, he feels tired, anxious, ill, bored; he will suddenly notice there’s something else more important and more pressing; he will make a call he knows will take up time; or he’ll forget to take action on something else, providing a distraction and “emergency” that will take him away from the work that is essential to his success.
Let’s go back in time a little to find out how Max’s fear of success was created. When he was 7 years old, Max was asked by his teacher in school, to stand up in front of the class and deliver a book report. Max was unprepared, nervous, and froze in front of the class. In that moment, his body went into fight, freeze or flight, and his subconscious interpreted the event as dangerous.
In addition to this, the other kids teased him about it afterwards — which strengthened the “evidence” in the subconscious that speaking publically was dangerous.
Fast-forward to when Max was 14 years old, and his father left the company he was working for, to get a new job. Max’s father was very anxious and nervous because his colleagues were throwing a farewell party for him, and he was expected to make a speech. Max witnessed the fear and stress in his father as he prepared himself for that night.
The Connections
Naturally, this is a very simplified example for clarity, but in this case, Max’s subconscious connected the threat — the fight, freeze or flight state with speaking in public, and this connection was strengthened by the experience he witnessed his father going through.
It also connected the event of leaving a job with needing to give a speech (his father’s experience). Now, while Max’s conscious mind would never have connected these aspects and wouldn’t expect such a connection, his subconscious has no ability to use reason or logic; and the connection is subconscious.
It this case, Max’s fear is not about success itself; it is about the data his subconscious has calculated — regarding what will happen after the success. In other words: If Max’s business grows enough for him to be able to leave his job, the data held in his subconscious says that he will have to give a speech (even though his conscious mind knows this is not true, it is Max’s subconscious that is in charge), and that of course is dangerous.
Therefore, his subconscious will do everything it can to protect Max by preventing him from doing whatever is needed to really move his business forward and make it a success.
How to Overcome the Fear of Success
Since most of the information that supports the fear of success is subconscious, and the conscious mind is completely unaware of it, we generally have no idea what memories are forming part of the structure of the fear. Fortunately, using FasterEFT means you don’t need to know the original information.
You only need to know how you know. How do you know you have this fear of success? And then address that; and as you clear and flip that, other thoughts, feelings and memories will come up that are connected. As long as you keep your focus on “how you know” your subconscious will do the work for you in transforming the data.
For more information on how our subconscious records are created and how they affect our everyday lives, read: The REAL Cause of All Your Problems.
For step-by-step instructions on how to use the FasterEFT technique effectively, read: The FasterEFT Technique — Step-by-Step.
To see FasterEFT in action, watch the videos in the FasterEFT in Action Playlist.
Article by: Robert G. Smith
Originally published at fastereft.com on May 15, 2016.
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